How to give a good hand job?

How to give a good hand job
Hand jobs may not be the first thing that comes to mind when you think of sex acts that guys fantasize about, but they’re really rather underappreciated. Consider this: Which is sexier for him, getting off by himself or getting aid from you? Exactly.

But how to give a good hand job? A good hand work is still appreciated by men. (If you don’t believe me, look at number nine on this list of movements that real guys adore.) That’s why we gathered a list of sexperts’ (and some dudes’) favorite hand job advice.

Giving a hand job is probably not one of your go-to abilities in your sex arsenal. It’s not because you’re completely naive on how to manage a penis, but because the good ol’ HJ lost its shine somewhere after high school.

“The hand job clearly doesn’t happen enough in adult bedrooms,” says Vanessa Marin, a Los Angeles-based licensed sex therapist. “It’s a pity since a hand job is a terrific way to make your lover happy.” Plus, who doesn’t enjoy turning their lover off?

There are two reasons to provide a HJ during your next sex session: One, they get to see their gorgeous spouse (you) take control of something they normally do themselves. And two, when you do something you don’t do very frequently, the act gets enormously hotter—just because it’s fresh.

Before you allow a defeatist attitude deter you from attempting, consider that many guys like getting hand jobs, just as you probably enjoy some digital activity. Here are a few things to consider the next time you offer to help your boyfriend:

Focus on the Entire Penis

Yes, the penile tip is really sensitive. However, just as many women enjoy being handled along the outer and inner labia, as well as the crucial clitoris, the entire length of the penis demands attention.

Thinking beyond the old-school concept of just jerking off is also required.

“There’s more to it than just jerking him off,” Kelly Connell, a sex educator and counselor at Naughty North, explains. “A woman should remember that the penis has many nerve endings, and a good hand job begins with caressing the entire penis.”

A Little Prep Goes a Long Way

Before you begin, if you’ve been nursing a frosty margarita or toying with ice cubes all night, do your boyfriend a favor and wash your hands under warm water to prevent his penis from mistaking you for liquid nitrogen.

Consider acquiring a few items that may gradually push him off a cliff – in a good manner. Connell offers gentle strokes and caresses to tease him, as well as other physical experiences. Tickle his penis with feathers or wrap pearl-like beads over your hands and move them up and down the shaft of his penis while rolling the beads between your hands and his penis.

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Get Comfortable

Finding a comfortable posture is essential for performing a mind-blowing hand job, and it may save you from bending his penis in 50 different ways (sorry to any guy who’s had his penis shattered).

“The ideal position I’ve discovered for hand jobs is sitting between the receiver’s legs with them on their back, straight and wide, with your legs splayed below theirs,” explains Ashley Manta, a sexuality educator and co-creator of International Hand Job Day (July 21). “It allows you to make eye contact and reach the entire pelvic area.”

Make eye contact

Eye contact is like an all-encompassing sexual secret weapon, regardless of the style of sex you’re having. Dr. Balestrieri states that “checking in with your spouse through eye contact informs them you are connected with them [and] their enjoyment.” “You’re tuned in, involved.” We don’t mean you should compete with your playmate in staring contests, but lengthy, lingering stares and a few smoldering looks will go a far way during a HJ. It’s also quite hot to stare the person you’re pleasing in the eyes (and vice versa). Try it!

Watch them masturbate

According to famous sex educator and Sex Hacker Pro Course founder Kenneth Play, your spouse definitely knows some of their favorite ways to be touched, and a simple way to duplicate that is basically just watching them masturbate. A little show and tell may go a long way if you’re both comfortable with it.

Pay attention to their technique

Taylor Sparks, an erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven, advises taking mental notes on your partner’s strokes and areas of focus while they work.

“Do they stay closer to the top of the penis, complete stroke top to bottom, or somewhere in the center with shorter strokes?” “[Your partner] is your best instructor when it comes to how they want their penis massaged,” she says. You don’t have to do exactly the same thing, but you should definitely play off of what they already enjoy.

Use Both Hands

You can and should always ask your partner what he loves in terms of technique, but a little experimenting and observing his reactions has the added bonus of teaching him a thing or two about what he finds most satisfying. And, for many guys, two hands are preferable to one.

Vary Your Speed

According to Sienna Sinclaire, a dating and sex coach at Naughty Lifestyle, pay attention to pace, rhythm, and pressure (start with a gentle grip, but not too light, and add pressure as you go).

“Don’t just walk in there and start pounding him like your life depends on it,” Sinclaire advises. “Begin slowly to see what he enjoys, just like he should when he’s going down on you or masturbating you. Feel how his [penis] reacts at varied speeds, and pay attention to his verbal replies as well. Respond to his movements by adjusting your rhythm.” (Of course, every male has different tastes – no two penises are same!)

Try a combination hand job and blowjob

You may make your lover happy with only a hand job or a blow job—or you can combine a hand job with oral sex. Try sucking your partner’s balls while stroking their penis shaft with your hand.

Touch yourself while you’re stroking them

Just because you are not receiving manual stimulation from a partner does not imply you cannot utilize your spare hand! It’s definitely hot watching your partner appreciate the handjob you’re doing for them, and the better you feel, the more likely your partner will feed off of your enthusiasm. Because the best handjob is also the one you get.

Know how to play with his testicles

Your man’s testicles are, without a doubt, quite sensitive. In fact, because they are so sensitive, they are the last area your man wants to be assaulted. The good news is that you may take advantage of his sensitivity while giving him a hand.

Give your hand a rest halfway through your hand job and slowly glide your fingers down near his testicles. Begin gently and tenderly fondling them between your fingers. You may also cup them in your palm and squeeze them gently.

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